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I will be posting Video Blogs of my personal opinions on things soon! Keep your eyes open for these!! I would love any questions to answer on my video blogs relating with life, relationships, and love!

Talk to a stranger

I started this blog with intent to always post my opinions and feelings and express them without guilt. Within the last year I really realized that you learn more about yourself and life by speaking to a stranger. My parents along with most throughout the world have always taught us not to talk to strangers...because this could possibly be a danger.

 I have always respected the opinion that not talking to a stranger was my safest bet. As I have become an adult I have realized that being safe is not only boring but dangerous as well. Maybe not dangerous in the sense that my parents were thinking...but in the sense of staying sheltered!

I have met some very interesting people just from having random conversations. I met one of my closest and best friends as a stranger. Everyone is a stranger the first time you meet them! My best friend and I met sitting outside on a picnic table outside of a community college. I walked up and started talking to her about her top and we sparked up an interesting conversation about Chicago (where I'm from) and how long I had been in California (2 weeks at the time). It has now been four years and we are still as close as ever!

Within reason, having that random conversation with an elderly person, young adult, even a young kid really could change that persons, or your life forever.

I met an amazing elderly man outside of campus, when I was attending FIDM. My car had been towed (a whole different story) and I was sitting on the curb waiting for a ride to come and get me. He came over to me and asked me if I was okay. I was so surprised by him coming up to me seeing as I was in LA and you don't generally come across people concerned for your well being. I told him that my car had been towed and he asked me the type of car it was. I got into a long discussion with him. He eventually asked if my boyfriend was coming to pick me up. Seeing as I was single, and he was about 75 years old, this did not weird me out so I told him that I was single.

He proceeded to tell me some interesting advice that has stuck with me ever since. He said... "never settle for less than you deserve and the most important relationship you should have, is with yourself.  Once you stop caring everyone else does." It took some time for this advice to set in, seeing as he was missing a few teeth and was most likely homeless. I never asked him why he was homeless but I did ask if he was okay and if he needed anything before I left. He said "honey...you just made my whole year with this conversation."

Meeting a stranger is not always going to change your life and be an earth shattering moment, but sometimes you meet one person that touches your heart. That one conversation with that random person could really be the drive and advice you need to better yourself. Never judge a random person on the street, a clerk, or any other stranger for that matter. Remember that to them, you are a stranger too!

Breakup Hangover

In the past four years, I have moved from Chicago to California. During that time I have had a lot of experience in the dating world. I had my first heartbreak from my first love and I learned a lot from it all at the age of 18. In the last four momentous years I educated myself in relationships. Relationships are really the only way to know what you want and what you don't want out of life.

I have no regrets on how these relationships turned out and wouldn't take them back for anything. Not only did I learn what I wanted out of a man, I also learned who I was as a person. It wasn't until this most recent relationship that I had a revelation. I realized just how great of a girl I am. I have become confident in who I am and love it. I am comfortable in my own skin. I spent so much of my time focusing on what I could be doing wrong in the relationship and why it wasn't working. One day I realized that just because you love someone doesn't mean you are supposed to be together. Compatibility is key.

Having this life changing revelation didn't come easy. I have had my fare share of dating duds and poor relationships before realizing all I need is myself in life. A large majority of the people in my life, friends & family, are all either married/engaged/pregnant and I'm so happy for them. I am at a totally different point in my life. I am single and I can honestly say that I am okay with that. Confidence and self esteem comes from within and no where else.

A message to all ladies out there going through self esteem issues or bad break ups. It's always darkest before dawn. The generation we live in now a days is so surrounded with not being officially together but not wanting to see that person with someone else. It makes it nearly impossible to find what you want in a man. So with that thought in mind don't find what you want in a man...find what you want in yourself..AND GO AFTER IT. Have a relationship with your career and your own life. Go out on a weekend instead of sitting at home. Leave the house with no intention of being back until some sort of AMAZING adventure happens to you. Get into a workout regiment and better your body! Talk to strangers and meet new people! When you find yourself sad and thinking of that relationship that once could have been...stop and remind yourself why you aren't together. If that doesn't work, blast some uplifting music and go for a long drive or walk!

I find myself doing all these things daily. Once this new year started I promised myself that 2012 would have to be way better than 2011. So far, I have achieved this goal! 

First post of many

Hello world,

I don't know who is going to be reading this. I love to write and express my feelings and what better way than to write in a blog. This is my first blog experience so be kind! I have been through a lot of ups and downs in my life and I am at a point in my life where putting it all down in single hand thoughts is the easiest way. Hence the name of this blog, Single Hand Thoughts.

Before I go into too much about my thoughts on life and the outside world, I wanted to just say hello to whoever is reading this. :)